If you've been following our blog for a while, or if you know us in real life, you know that we've been hesitant to share too much about H. Part of it is out of necessity - he is not yet ours. Part of it is also by choice - people can be cruel and I'm just not sure how to handle that.
...yes, I need to figure out how to deal with this as - like it or not - I'm going to have to face the music soon....
So far, we've only shared specifics about his "needs" with a handful of people outside of our families. Other than family, only a few friends have seen his photo. However, even with just showing his photo and talking about him to a small group of people, I've still experienced a bit of hurt. Reactions that were not what I wanted them to be.
Someone referred to H as something less than "normal." Ugh. I have something to say about that, but I'll keep that to myself. For now. Others talk about the fact that his "needs" can be "fixed", and that irritates me as well.
Needless to say, those things have made me even more cautious. Hesitant to let anyone else see our precious boy. Hesitant to allow my fierce protectiveness for a child I've yet to meet rear its ugly head.
But, like I said, I'm going to have to face the music soon, and I plan to try to blog while we're in C*, so I need to start working toward introducing our little man to y'all.
H is about 17 months old. He has sparkly eyes, chubby cheeks, and a beautiful smile. He also has a cleft lip and palate and one of his ears is very tiny.
He was masterfully formed by the hand of a loving
God who does not make mistakes.
And he is BEAUTIFUL!
And we are totally, completely in LOVE with him :)
You are so right! :)
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DeleteShannon, Your son was masterfully formed by the hand of a loving God and H is wonderfully made. I have been reading and following your updates. I am so excited for you guys and glad that you and your husband are reaching the end and will finally be able to hold H in your hands. My husband and I are also going through the adoption process and can somewhat relate to some of what you have gone through. However we still have a ways to go. Again, so excited for you both. I look forward to seeing that beautiful child once he's home. Our prayers are with you as you go through the journey of picking H up and bringing him home. May the Lord give you wisdom as to how to response to people and their "comments". Blessings friend.
ReplyDeleteGood to hear from you! Thanks for following and for your kind commends and support :) I'm curious to hear about your journey! Will you blog about it at some point? Thanks too for your prayers!
DeleteI started following your blog about a month ago as we are also on the journey to adopt from China. I just wanted to say that I have no doubt your son is perfect! It is hard when family and friends do not understand the desires of our hearts or maybe even that God created and cherishes every soul on this earth. So happy your little fella will soon be in your loving arms!
ReplyDeleteThanks for following and for your kind words! I'm looking forward to following your blog :)
DeleteHe is beautiful and perfect. God does not create people who are less than perfect. I can't wait to see him!
ReplyDeleteAmen! Thank you :)
DeletePeople are so hurtful! I thought he was BEAUTIFUL! His eyes are SO lovely, and he is just tiny, precious, and PERFECT! God made him perfectly and people who can't see past the physical differences aren't seeing his heart and him as a tiny boy that needs his Mommy and Daddy and just to be LOVED! So excited for you to bring him HOME!
ReplyDeleteThank you, Hannah!!
DeleteShannon, I wanted to pass another blog along to you in case you're not familiar with it. Ashley Ann blogs at http://ashleyannphotography.com/blog/ They brought home their daughter from China in August. She writes beautifully about her daughter's cleft and about dealing with other people's reactions, etc...Her writing has helped me process a lot as we prepare to bring our own son home. I know you're a tad bit busy right now, but thought you might want to check it out when you get back home again. :)
ReplyDeleteThanks, Becca! I do follow her blog and love it - I think she said something about "rocking it"? :) Hope you're doing well, and thanks again for sharing that link!
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